The title of this blog is perhaps quite general, but that doesn’t make the theme less interesting! I feel that a lot of people are concerned about the question how they can make their dream reality. How do you ensure that the wish that you have to do something really special, actually comes true?
Fifteen years ago, I had the same dilemma. In this blog I will give you my insights about how you can bring your dream to life and which processes you have to go through after you have said to yourself: ‘And now I am going to do it’.
Surrendering yourself to the adventure.
The past few months have caused a lot of switching. I am sitting more often in front of a computer screen than ever before. Because of the Corona crisis everything has been put online: workshops, group sessions, meetings, moments of inspiration etc. Nothing is still the same, but you get used to it. The big advantage is that you are forced to be creative, which makes you feel that you are getting much more out of yourself.
Here, I think about the many Zoom-sessions that I now do with groups, every 30 days, to bring the participants to their own personal turning point. Normally everyone is sitting in front of me and you are able to attune more easily into someone’s energy. Now I have to do that behind my desk, looking at my screen, when you are more alert how people express themselves. You can get a lot out of words, gestures, if someone speaks softly or harshly and also how everyone reacts to one another. I receive information from the smallest things and with the right activation, it’s possible to turn around certain restraining beliefs. It’s lovely to see how the energy keeps changing. That gives a lot of satisfaction: seeing that someone begins to believe in their dreams.
In the meantime, I have done thousands of sessions with people, in which I often get the same questions when it is about the realization of dreams. But if I limit myself to the Zoom sessions, then the central thread that I find is; that everything is about postponement. Not daring to jump. Not daring to let go. Not surrendering yourself to an adventure, from fear of the consequences. The question is then: how do I trust the future?
Step 1: Taking the first step
The first step is, (funnily enough), taking the first step. A lot of people have difficulty with this. They allow themselves to be afraid of what others may say, or what they read on Internet. A lot of doom scenarios in their head about what could perhaps go wrong, which is felt so intensely, that it takes away all their enthusiasm. It is the same feeling that you are on your way to the biggest roller coaster at a funfair – you were really looking forward to it – and on the way you allow yourself to become alarmed by all the warning signs, the scraping of the cars on the rails and the even louder screams from the people on the ride. Everyone knows that feeling. You hesitate. You feel your stomach churn. And even so in the end you join the line to queue …
The decision (to join the queue) is crucial. It is the most important step of all. It is consciously choosing for the adventure. What may happen might be scary, but if you had not taken the first step, then probably you would have spent months on the Internet, searching for the ‘safe’ way to go and do what you really want to do. Then I have bad news for you: Nothing guarantees safety. From whichever side you look at it, it is still a roller coaster. But there is also good news: you never have to ask yourself again, ’what if …?’
What can help too is that you remind yourself that the first step does not immediately change everything. But it is a start. Your life will not suddenly be turned upside down. Assemble people all around you who support your decisions and avoid people that continually remind you about the risks. What you really need at the beginning, is self-confidence. Your decision is not rational but emotional. Then postpone the thinking process for the time being. Allow yourself to get used to the feeling that you are in the queue for the roller coaster, which eventually (but not immediately) will mean that your life will change for good.
Step 2: Releasing emotions
Something beautiful now happens from the subconscious: you think that you don’t have any more control on your actions (you are on unknown territory) and therefore your deepest emotions come to the surface. This is the second step in the process: releasing your emotions. There will be fear – what should I do now? – and at the same time relief – finally something is happening! Inside you are going up and down. You are swinging from high to low. You feel excitement, but also doubt. Just let it be, because it is all part of it.
I remember very well that I decided, fifteen years ago, to begin this work. I wanted to display my art and vision to the world and therefore I decided to perform outside. The first invitation was for a presentation and the thought that I would have to speak in front of people was dead scary! All sorts of things came to the surface and I was really frightened that people would reject me. At the same time, I spent many days and nights with great passion working on my story. I was focused on each and every detail and a part of me could not wait until the day when I could introduce myself as ‘Janosh’. I felt just like a small child, waiting for the big moment to be able to show myself.
Such exciting moments are not only in the beginning. You have them all the time: each time you appear with your passion to the outside. I have that feeling almost every month, with every new project, every new code, every webinar, when I have something new to share. You get used to the excitement and that is why I don’t postpone such moments anymore. What often helps is, if you realize that the fear to begin with something is not something you have to defeat; you just have to get used to dealing with it. In other words: getting in the queue again and again for the roller coaster.
Step 3: Patience and Surrender
Step 3 is creating your dream: having patience. The adventure does not begin straightaway. There is a certain phase of preparation that you need to go through. This is also the phase where your soul comes to the forefront. All the emotions slowly subside, and then the underlying awareness of your real mission comes to the surface. This process is really important for your perspective. You begin to see things differently. You become alert for the signals in your surroundings. The more sensitive people pick up the synchronicities here and there, or, in other words: situations that tell you that you are on the right way.
Patience in this phase is important. Have trust in the wisdom of your soul. You can try and analyze as much as you want, but in the end it’s not your head that makes the connections but your subconscious. That is where connections are made. Certain behavior patterns are enlarged and where possible re-written. You begin to look at yourself differently. Who am I? What do I really want? Where do I see myself in a few years’ time? Which behavior belongs to this?
In my case it is often so, that in this phase I get the desire to change something physically. It used to be my hair, my clothes, my car and the walls in my house. In the meantime, I am not so rigorous and look for the little things that I can carry or look at every day (think about a necklace, a bracelet, a photo or a painting). In this way you keep yourself focused and sharp about your behavior. You tell yourself: there is a change underway and then an inner change is part of that too. See as step by step moving up in the queue to the roller coaster, where you zig zag more and more towards the awareness of having the new reality, which is quickly going to unfold.
Step 4: Surrendering to the Unknown
Then the very best moment: the ride you have been waiting for. You surrender to the unknown and then at full speed you go through all the bends. This is the phase of taking action. Making yourself seen and sharing your story with people all around you. You are very vulnerable now, but powerful at the same time. And based on what you get back, then you adapt your actions, here and there.
If you don’t have a clear intention about what you want, then the adventure can be over quickly. You encounter a lot when you finally reveal yourself. Positive reactions allow you to fly. The first negative reaction hits you like a bomb. What counts, is that you know that you began the adventure, so this does not discourage you from carrying on. It is your path, your dream. If people resonate with you, then that is lovely. If that does not happen, then what can you learn from it? If you have the tendency to give up, then look honestly what is mirrored to you. Are you really going to go for it? Do you believe in your dream? Are you 100 % honest with yourself about what you want? Or have you, along the way, deviated from your path?
At one of my very first presentations there were 100 people present and two people walked out after 15 minutes, angry. I saw it happen at the back of the room and I sunk through the floor. Even the applause from the remaining 98 people could not take away my disappointment. I took the feeling back home with me and in a message later on with my guides they said: ‘Don’t be disappointed because you have inspired people today. There were 98 who clapped for you, but the two who walked away were those who you really touched’. We often do not know what goes on in others when they reject us. Often people react in that way, because they are touched themselves, for example the desire (just like you) to be free.
Step 5: Begin again
When you have completed your first roller coaster ride, then every ride after that becomes easier. It sounds like a cliché, but it is the way it is. Repetition is the power. What I do now, I did fifteen years ago, not with so much self-confidence and surrender. I have worked towards this. Each session and each presentation again and again. I have often made a mistake, I have taken risks and I have learnt from the moments, when it did not go as I had planned. But what I learnt the most, is that the dream is not the destination, but a possibility to begin again and again. Each day I can get going again. Each day I can be busy with what I love to do and that is inspire people to live from their heart. Each day is a blank page. It is so simple … and so incredibly valuable.
If your dream is to be rich, or to be well-known, then that is lovely. But do you really want to have the feeling that you are a successful person, who finds luck in the daily patterns. Don’t visualize the trophies in your cupboard, or the luxury holidays to exotic beaches, but see a life when you repeatedly stand in the queue for the roller coaster. If you keep beginning again, being a child and experiencing the excitement of challenging yourself, with your soul mission, which is coming more and more to the surface, you will see that it was never the intention to be only rich or successful. It is a free fall downwards, with the butterflies in your tummy and a big smile on your face. That being able to share, the best with people that were also on board, is what it’s really about. The memories that you take with you forever.
Do you want to have that feeling too? Do you want to transcend yourself? Do you want to head into the next challenge with passion? And do it with others, who are just as enthusiastic and excited as you? I will help you to make a start Live, up close and personal. Then enroll yourself for the Cosmic Care Online and we will go on the adventure together!
From heart to heart,