What is the power of positive affirmations? Why are they connected to so many inspiration and self-help methods? If you are someone who stands in front of the mirror every day, looks deeply at yourself and whispers a number of loving words, then you will understand what language and words can do to us. You feel different straightaway: lighter, safer and happier. You are going to shine if you repeatedly say to yourself: ‘You are a beautiful being’. And why this is really necessary is because, in our communication with one another we often experience the opposite: we make things much heavier than they are and give one another an insecure feeling. So why the great difference?
The frequency of Communication
I received the code Communication more than ten years ago. Since then, I have done very little with it, but with the development of Embody I felt: this one has to be a part too. It is one that helps to improve the communication with your body, knowing that our body is a messenger and that we can learn a lot from how we physically react to situations. If you, just like me, place your body centrally in communication, then perhaps you will understand why I show my enthusiasm with words like: ‘This gives me a sensation’! I feel this in my heart and in my belly. I feel that my body gives confirmation and even though I cannot explain this fully, I often base my choices on this.
Now I am connecting with the frequency of Communication again, I feel how powerful this can be as a key when I connect it to non-verbal communication. Sometimes you say so much more with your energy than with your words. I even dare to claim that about 75% of our exchange is not even visible, because it takes place on an energetic level. Whilst we are listening, we feel more and exchange energy with one another. This is why for example in a shop that you can be happy with a product that you obtain from the shopkeeper A, whilst with shopkeeper B, the same product can feel like a waste of money. Actually, it has nothing to do with the product: it’s the energy that you pick up during the conversation. The difference between: ‘I want to make you happy’ and ‘I want to make money from you’. These intentions are not heard in words, but you can certainly feel them.
The destiny of the introvert
As a natural born introvert, I know like no one else how important words can be. I know that because they are often missing with me. I can recall a number of important moments in my life where I suddenly blocked a conversation or a discussion, purely because I did not know how I should react. And the words always came too late. In retrospect, I always knew what I should have said. It is almost the fate of an introvert, because you really need more time. You utilize the conversation in a completely different way, more like a dance than just ticking the boxes of the subjects and arguments.
I can be totally surprised too, if I have a good discussion with someone (and I felt a click) and suddenly the subject changes and we are standing facing one another, each one with a different opinion. It is then just as if I have lost the rhythm of the dance. I need to make an effort to pick myself up, just as if I had not expected that the other person would let me fall. And this whilst he or she does not experience it in the same way. It is purely the next subject, with a new exchange, which is unconnected with the previous one. But the switching is difficult for me to make at that moment, because I have lost the thread. I cannot feel the other person anymore. And my reaction is directly to the inside, back to my feeling. I then call on my emotions and signals from my body. Often, I can pick up the thread quite quickly, but it is still annoying, just like when someone interrupts you in the middle of your story – suddenly I have lost it and the flow as well.
If you are an introvert too, then you will know how intimidating people can be, who are verbally strong. In my past I have always looked up to gifted speaks. I could pick them out of any group. And then there I was, standing opposite them and then I feel small and vulnerable. It was frustrating because I knew that I was actually right, but the other person could, with a lot of uproar, give the impression that I was wrong. Completely overruled by this verbal exchange, I could not understand how someone could actually say these things to just win the discussion. I would never do that personally, because each and every word is meant and thought through carefully. Afterwards I actually felt defeated. If felt unjust, even though I know it wasn’t the fault of the other person, but how I was actually standing myself in the conversation.
Being right or getting it right
The code Communication was a great help for me, because the information that I received was so confirming. I learnt that communication does not have anything to do with winning or losing, because competition is destructive and does not solve anything. We will never be able to understand one another if we keep trying to convince the other. It leads to pain, disappointment and denial. It is actually the connection which we should see to really come to recognition. And because many of us have learnt to have discussions at a rational level, in which we transmit and receive and where we hide behind big stories and knowledge, then it makes a connection almost impossible. There will always be a bit of tension, because the head thinks in black and white and only sees two options: being right or getting it right.
And when I began to see this, the tension fell away. I was suddenly no longer the ‘underdog’ who had to fight against gifted speakers, but just someone who wanted to connect with the other. And because I, as an introvert, was more attuned to non-verbal communication, I suddenly had a treasure of possibilities to search for a connection. I pay attention in conversation to other things: someone’s body language, their breathing, volume, the speed of talking, hand movements, tone frequencies, the position of the arms, shoulders, legs and sometimes even the perspiration on someone’s forehead. I could feel when someone was having difficulties even though they came across as so self-assured. I could see when someone was lying, even though he said he was telling the truth. Communication became reading the signals and even feeling someone’s energy. It was a game, with the challenge to come together into one soul frequency.
What I always like when I give a retreat, are the open circles. We do this often at the end of the day, after we have been in silence for quite a long time. What you then see, is that people come forward very differently when they have not said anything for a while. For extroverts this can sometimes be like hell: not being able to use words to explain yourself. But take away someone’s view, then all the channels are open. When you lunch together, share spaces and pass one another in the corridor without having to say anything, then you begin to pay attention to other things. Your instrumental feelings are activated and when the time comes for the open circle, you see that people not only experience more connection but have also gained a good insight into the others. And even though during retreats we never talk extensively about our jobs and our careers, but we are sitting in each other’s energy field. We are connected and silent. And exact that silence … then our communication seems to be the strongest.
No blah, blah, blah
When I made the program for Embody in December 2020, I had the feeling with Communication: ‘Yes this is necessary to shout your passion from the rooftops!’
As always in such consciousness processes, the work creates itself and in retrospect, I am more the participant than the maker. Because now Communication is coming up, I feel that my eyes are being opened once again. The embodiment of your passion – that is the purpose of the Embody workshop – and not coming up with a load of blah, blah, blah. The power is not in the words, but in the intentions. What you think and experience whilst you say something:
What do I transmit?
What do I want to share?
Which energy do I give to my words?
Do I want gain or connect?
Do I dare to share who I really am or only what makes me look good?
A new, interesting ‘stop over’ in the way to Embodiment. For me this is the most intriguing theme: communication. And then especially the invisible, energetic part. Everything that you cannot see but feel. But in this way, I don’t want to suggest that we are defrauding everyone with our words. I only think that we have more to give and offer, if we give our most beautiful and truthful intentions to what we say. No loose words or promises, but real communication from heart to heart. That begins of course with ourselves, with a positive message that you say to yourself, for example if you are standing in front of a mirror. ‘I love you, dear special person’. Every day for a few weeks … it can do and change a lot for you.
On March 1st, I will share (for the first time) the activation Communication with you. I hope that you will be there too! And even if you have not followed the previous webinars: just take part. You don’t have to do or say anything, just sit back and enjoy. It promises to be a marvelous evening, with a communication based on love and connection!
From heart to heart,
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